By Elise Sutton
Ladies, what are you looking for in a man? How would you describe the perfect man? How about a man that would worship the ground that you walked on? A man that would focus his energy and his attention on you all of the time. A man that would treat you like a Queen, would pamper you, give you foot and body massages, and who would get more pleasure out of pleasuring you than receiving pleasure himself. How about a man that do whatever you told him to do, without arguing or complaining? A man that would not only do all of his chores like cutting the grass and washing the cars, but would also do housework, the laundry, the grocery shopping, and even the cooking. How about a man that would wine and dine you and shower you with gifts? A man that would not cop jealous attitudes whenever you talk with or spend time with another man. Above all, a man that would love you with all of his heart and who would view you as his Goddess.
Sounds like the perfect man, huh? Sounds almost too good to be true, doesn't it? A fantasy, a dream that naïve young girls have. Well, I am here to tell you that you can have such a relationship with such a man. As a matter of fact, you are probably already living with a man that has the potential to become this perfect man. You are already working with men like this and you pass men everyday who are like this. There are men everywhere that have the potential and even the desire to be this perfect man that I just described. The key is not where to find the perfect man but how to find the perfect man? The answer to this question lies within. You have the power to draw these men to you and to train them to be the perfect boyfriend, husband, and lover. You, as a female, hold the key.
Females have a power over men. It is within you and you just need to release it. If you will release this dominant female power within you, you will have men begging to serve you. This power can do wonders for you in life. Not only in your relationship, but also in your social life, in your career, and in every other area of your life. Right now in our society, men hold the positions of power and authority. However, they hold these positions by deceiving women into allowing them to be the dominant gender. The truth is that women are the superior gender and that once a woman unleashes her dominant power, no man will be able to stand up to her. Men become submissive and like little puppy dogs when they are confronted with a powerful woman. The good news is that you have this powerful woman on the inside and men desire to submit to her.
If you don't believe me, allow me to refresh your memory a little. I am now talking to women who are married or who were married before. Remember when you were dating? Remember how submissive your future husband was. Think back. Remember how he was so sweet and kind. Remember how he use to bring you flowers? He would do whatever you wanted to do and go wherever you wanted to go. Remember that? Remember how much you loved him then? Let me ask you this. What changed? Once you got marred, he changed, didn't he? He became selfish and he ignored you. He started to hang around his friends again or he watched television all the time. He started to refuse to go with you to visit your friends and family, didn't he? He refused to go with you shopping or to the places that he once loved to go along with you just to be near you. Everything became a fight and an argument, didn't it? The flowers and gifts stopped. He became cheap and tight with his money, didn't he? Then there is the sex. Sex use to last all night and be so exciting but now it has become boring and fast. Once he gets his sexual release, it's time to go to sleep. Forget about you. After all, bringing you to orgasm is too much work. What happened to the passion? What happened to the guy that you were dating?
What happened is that he is a typical male. What happened is that you didn't realize how you had him under your spell. Your female beauty and your sexuality had captured him and he fell for you. He would do anything for you back then. You probably didn't realize it at the time, but you were the dominant one and he was the submissive one during the courtship. You didn't have to know about D&S and Female Domination back then. Your sexual energy and female ways naturally caused him to become submissive toward you. For a short time, his macho ways and male pride was overcome by your female power. However, once the two of you got married or entered into a serious relationship, his male pride and societies ways caused him to become the dominant one and you surrendered that power and the spell was broken. Now he expected you to be the good little wife and he expected you to obey him. He started to call the shots and the euphoria was over, for the both of you.
Well I want to encourage you to get that power back. That power is still there within you. As a matter of fact, you only used a little of your sexuality and power during the courtship. There is much more power within you that if released, will not only bring back the man that you fell in love with, but will drive him into total submission to you. Not just him either, but all men will sense your female power and they will either desire to serve you or they will be afraid of you. So let me tell you how to release that Tigress within.
First of all, realize that you are a miracle made by God. Men are also miracles and they are beautiful and valuable creations made by God. Men are made in the image of God. However, Women are superior to them. Women are God's last and greatest creations. Women are beautiful, intelligent, and sexual. Women are kind, gentle, tender hearted, yet also strong and resourceful. So begin to see yourself as the superior female that you are. Feel good about yourself and cast off your former low self-image. God does not make junk and losers. God made you to be special and a winner.
God also made you to be in authority over men. God created Eve to be Adam's "helper". The word helper in the Bible is translated from the Hebrew word "ezer". That word means one who helps from a position of authority. It is the same word that is used to describe God in many scriptures that declare how God will help us. It is always from a position of strength and authority. That is the position the female has over the male. So no longer view yourself as a second-class citizen. You are a powerful creation and you are special.
Next, begin to use your sexuality. I don't mean to be promiscuous or to flaunt it. What I am talking about is dress sexy and act sexual. Don't dress sleazy, but sophisticated and lady-like. Don't run around in baggy clothes and sweat pants. Your dress reflects your self-image. Wear nice clothes. They don't have to be expensive clothes, but they should be nice. Wear high heel shoes whenever you can. A lot of men have foot and leg fetishes and seeing an attractive woman wearing high heel shoes can make them weak and submissive. Now, I understand about how uncomfortable they can be at times so you don't have to wear them all of the time but whenever you are going out somewhere and you want to feel extra sexy, don't forget about your shoes.
Also, get some leather clothing. A lot of men have a real leather fetish. A pair of leather pants or a leather skirt can make you feel sexy and powerful and at the same time make men feel weak and submissive. Again, look sophisticated and sexy but not sleazy.
Go to a salon and learn which hair style looks best on you. Also, learn how to properly apply the right kind and the right amount of make-up. Learn what shades look best with your hair color and complexion. If you dress sharp and look good, it will give you confidence and that confidence will radiate from you. Also, exercise and eat right. You want to look good and fit. If you need to lose weight, there are many quality weight loss clinics out there that can help. Don't use fad diets or the lose weight fast schemes. Go to a doctor and lose weight the medically safe way. Also, exercise and tone up.
You don't have to be skinny. As a matter of fact, many submissive men like a larger woman. However, you don't want to be fat and you do want to be fit. If you are over weight and out of shape, don't feel bad about yourself and don't get discouraged. You can lose the weight. It just takes a quality decision. It will help you to feel so much better about yourself and the better you feel both physically and mentally, the more confident you will be and the more sexual energy that will be radiating from you.
Another thing you need to do is to get out there and experience life. Don't spend all of your time home watching television and surfing the Web. Go back to school and take some classes. Join some clubs or organizations that you are interested in. Get around people and become the confident woman that you really are. Excel in your career and use your sexuality and your dominance at the work place to get the promotions and the better paying position. Again, I am not talking about "sleeping" around. I am talking about walking and talking like the sexual and the confident woman that you are. Don't take any crap from any man. Remember, you are superior.
Now as you make these slight adjustments to yourself and your self-image, also allow that dominant nature to flow out of you. Be bold and be strong. Expect good things to happen and they will. In your relationship with your man, begin to dominate him both in and out of the bedroom. Do my "psychoanalysis of the submissive male" on him. Begin to train him to be that perfect man that you desire. Expect excellence out of him and don't allow him to take you for granted. Begin to discipline him, as men need this. Men grow up being disciplined and nurtured by women. Deep inside they still need and desire this. So learn how to discipline a man and how to properly train him.
During sex, begin to learn about D&S and Female Domination. Some of these activities may seem strange, but they are powerful tools in getting a man to submit. Wear fetish outfits and use his fetish against him. D&S and Female Domination will really spice up your sex life and it will never be boring or routine again. If you will overcome your inhibitions and allow for sexuality and dominance to flow and to grow, you will begin to be amazed at how intense and enjoyable sex can be. Also, start to view sex as being for your pleasure and get into the habit of denying your man sexual orgasms. If you deny him and keep him aroused and frustrated most of the time, he will be so much more eager to serve you and to obey you. He will focus on you and your needs if his sexual drive is on high. You need to control it in order to control him.
By dong these things, you will be unleashing that Tigress within you and you will allow your dominant nature to come forth. This will in turn cause men to act submissive around you and will draw them to you.